6 Simple Ways I Keep it Feminine as a Follower
My mantra is to let go and let him lead! So I'd like to share the top 6 ways that I channel my femininity as a follower in social Latin dance. Feel free to comment and share your thoughts on this blog post.
Prioritize Self-Care. Self-care is loving yourself. When I get home from my 9 to 5 shift, I love to light a candle to relax and take a hot shower. After I'm relaxed, I either read, write in my journal, listen to music or go to dance class. These activities help me redirect energy to myself. The more connected I am to myself, the more I'm able to connect with my leader on the dance floor.
Smile. As much as I love my resting face, I never leave my house without my smile. I've been called "Smiley" because there's nothing more inviting than a smile. So don't forget to show off those pearly whites on the dance floor! Smiling can also help break the ice while dancing with your leader.
Dress Up. The reality is that we are visual creatures. Therefore, I enjoy dressing up and wearing light makeup to enhance my beautiful features. I often wear dresses and heels over jeans and sweats to socials and dance class. I believe that if you feel good, you'll look good too.
Just Be. Being present and enjoying the moment is a great way to channel your femininity. When I go to socials, I leave my phone in the car to fully engage with the music and other dancers. I also rarely check my phone during dance class to fully immerse myself in the experience. Being present builds a stronger connection with your leader so you can receive his signals and respond accordingly.
Let the Leader Drive the Dance Without Criticism. The beauty of social dancing is that it's never perfect. You'll experience missed signals, misdirection, etc. As a follower, I avoid criticizing a poor leader about his dance skills and habits. I leave constructive criticism to the professionals. My goal is to master the art of following even if I'm dancing with a subpar leader.
Be Traditional and Avoid Role Reversal. As a follower, I let my partner lead even before we get on the dance floor. This means that I don't approach leaders to dance. Instead, I position myself to be seen by leaders. I've had leaders walk across the room to ask me to dance and lead me to a good spot on the dance floor. Bear in mind that there are exceptions to every rule, but the leader's role is to initiate and navigate.
- Lider x Falouer